I came across a new (to me) blog (although I’ve linked to it before I think) and found some posts about being highly sensitive. And introverted. And I do think I am somewhat introverted but I had never thought of myself as highly sensitive. In this post she gives ideas on how to care for the highly sensitive parent. And she links to another post here that gives some good information too.
My kids, man I love my kids. But all of the talking makes me about crazy sometimes. They all talk to me at once. I should write down the number of times they say ‘mom’ in one day. And I want to be available to them and I want to want to be around them. But when I’m not getting any downtime it makes it very hard for me to want that. This past weekend was a great example. We had a lot of things on our schedule. Fun things, great things, I wouldn’t have wanted to skip any of them. But at the same time they all fell on one weekend and in between those fun things I didn’t schedule any downtime for myself. Time with no one talking to me. Not even my kids.
In the time management post she reminded me of a few things that I’ve forgotten lately. Number one being there should be a difference between an ideal reality and a real reality. I can wish to finish all the items on my to-do list every day but it’s not going to happen. I have kids and I have a need for downtime for myself. And I’m not super human. So I’ve started scheduling my tasks like she does on her post and it’s helping a lot (nerd alert – I still have a paper planner and I love it).
She explains that time management is really energy management. And that rings so true to me. I’m not pregnant and barely breastfeeding but I still get tired and still need breaks and can’t do it all. I have to be reminded of that still though. Lower the expectations and get the essentials done. You can see above that each box corresponds with the day on the left page so I know which day to do each item. I sent to HyVee yesterday and dropped a package at their little post office area so I was able to cross of the post office for today. I decided to skip going to Trader Joe’s later in the week and just buy chocolate chips and butter at HyVee (good enough is better than perfect) and that meant I got to scratch that off of Thursday. The midwife is for a well woman check not a pregnancy (for curious minds). The system is brand new, only two days in, so obviously it isn’t some long term perfect fit. But I feel less stressed out and less frazzled and so I’m calling it a success thus far.
She also has some tips for taking care of the HSP, which I linked to above but are as follows:
start the day right – I start most days with a run, or I aim to start my days in that way. The day starts early (5:10/5:30 am) so I’m not going to get up earlier to pray. I was very conflicted about this for awhile but we often pray on our runs and once a week I try to stop in to the Pinks to pray. So I’m calling this good. I would like to work on eating a better more balanced breakfast.
embrace routine – I think our routine is fairly set for us because of the kids being in school and activities but I could do better. It’s just always changing so I’ve embraced being flexible.
outsource the talking – I do this currently by tv shows or movies for the kids but I love that she does audio books. I need to try that for sure.
enforce quiet time – Back at this and it’s so hard! Ada fights it like a boss, like she’s the boss of me, and some days I would like to not fight her and so I give in and let her stay up. Our days are both better if we get a break from talking to each other for 30 minutes or an hour a day. So we are back at it.
control the clutter – Yes! The post about my capsule wardrobe was the start of some major clean up around here. It is amazing how much better my closet feels and how much easier it is to get dressed. The husband and I have been cleaning out the basement, installing shelving, and taking piles to goodwill (the old owners left us a lot of their lovely possessions too). My mind does so much better if I can look around and not see stuff everywhere. If I know that everything has a place. It’s coming along.
limit the amount of information you are taking in during the
school day – I’m not homeschooling but I’m taking in a lot of information via instagram, FB, blogs, email, etc. I don’t watch television during the day but the online stuff is a serious time suck. I think I could do better to limit this and need to put some plans in place.
be deliberate about how you rest and recharge – and yes, again, so smart. I often will veg out at night in front of the television watching silly HGTV shows and then it’s bedtime. And it’s not that there is anything wrong with tv, it’s just that it leaves me feeling not at all fulfilled and relaxed. I could find better ways to spend my time.
Are you highly sensitive? Are you an introvert or extrovert? What do you do to take care of these parts of yourself?