I keep thinking about writing about my friends here but I struggle to come up with the words. I have to write about it though, because it’s what I do, and because I want to remember so I never forget. That’s mostly why I write. I forget things easily. My husband has memories stored from when he was teeny and I can barely remember when I was a teenager. So I write to remember so I never forget.
I have a very close girlfriend in Omaha that I miss dearly. We are traveling together in September. We see each other every month or two. It’s just easy, it always has been. We started running together in April of 2011 when both of our youngest were almost one. We ran together often, we ran races together. We lived just three blocks from each other. We had dinner together all the time. After those babies got bigger we each had one more baby and now we have seven girls between the two families. They all love each other like sisters. They are like family to us. It was hard to move away and let the everyday-ness of that relationship fade away.
It makes me think of that old, too often used quote? “Make new friends, but keep the old. One is silver, the other is gold.”
I’ve made new friends and I cherish those friendships too.
One set of friends are my running friends. In the dark, pounding the pavement, sweating together, those friendships are special. We’ve done a “runner’s retreat”, we’ve ran races together. We meet for coffee most Saturdays. These women inspire me and help me to grow and make me a better person. I’m so thankful for their open arms and how welcoming they’ve been and how they love me even if I don’t deserve it always. These women step up and make things happen. These women parent 5, 6, 7, 8 children and still get more done in a day than I do. These women inspire me and make me feel normal and they are such blessings in my life.
And a second set of friends are like another family to me. They didn’t need another friend. They welcomed my family and shared their dinner tables. They initiated play dates and made me feel like part of the group. They love on my kids as much as I do. We are traveling together in May and I can’t wait. They are fun and they are joyful and they show me what a good life can look like. They love me even if I don’t deserve it always. They care, they give, they love and they welcome.
Women need women. Or I do at least. I love my husband and he is the best. But sometimes you need a girlfriend to talk to non-stop about girl things. I’m so grateful for the amazing women that God has put in my life.
This post sat unpublished for weeks. And then via Elizabeth I came across this postand quote today and I want to thank my friends for inconveniencing themselves for me:
“That’s the bottom line: You love as well as you are willing to be inconvenienced.
How well we inconvenience ourselves for each other is the real sinews of community, that binds friendships, that ties relationships — not how well we impress each other. Inconvenience is the DNA of healthy love.”